How Can I Help Those Who Struggle with Sexual Addictions?

The unprecedented quantity and easy availability of pornography have not only affected the world in general, but the church in particular.  What was once hard to access is now easy with technology, including mobile phones. If you are a pastor, you have probably already faced counseling situations that involved this issue.  If you have not encountered these situations, you likely will in the near future.  Many in our churches (women and men, single and married, young and old) have a past or present enslavement to this destructive poison, the lies it spreads, and the perversions that it encourages.  Many pastors struggle with this sin as well.  I do not write with a tone of condemnation for strugglers, past or present; I write to try to call this deceptive phenomenon what it is, because it presents itself as attractive – like the bait hiding the hook.  It is a serious issue of idolatry and misdirected worship, but there is hope in the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

There are a number of resources available that seek to provide biblical counsel to past and present strugglers which will help them grow in sanctification, and may also be of help to others by encouraging them to keep up their guard.  This is not an exhaustive list.  I am aware that there are some other resources as well (feel free to suggest any in the comments or by contacting me).  This post includes authors whom I have read and have reason to commend to you.  Many of these resources would be useful not only for one on one discipleship and counseling, but for small group studies.  Hopefully you will find something here to be of benefit to you and those you have opportunity to counsel, encourage, and warn.

Tim Challies, Sexual Detox: A Guide for the Single Guy (Click for free eBook, pdf format)

Tim Challies, Sexual Detox: A Guide for the Married Guy (Click for free eBook, pdf format)

(Click here to read the original series online at Tim’s blog.)

Brian Croft, “How Do You Counsel a Husband Who Has Hurt His Wife with His Pornography Struggle?

Brian Croft, “How Do You Counsel a Wife Hurt by Her Husband’s Pornography Struggle?

Joshua Harris, Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World (book)

Rick Holland, A Biblical Strategy for Fighting Lust (conference talk; see related manuscript)

John Piper, “Battling the Unbelief of Lust” (Click here for access to sermon manuscript and audio)

John Piper, A.N.T.H.E.M: Strategies for Fighting Sexual Lust

David Powlison, “Breaking Pornography Addiction” (Click here for Part 1) (Click here for Part 2)

David Powlison, “Making All Things New: Restoring Pure Joy to the Sexually Broken” (Click here for link to conference audio and video) (Click here for free .pdf file download of book chapter)

Review of Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers by Dr. Albert Mohler

Here are a couple of blogposts with links to more resources:

“Porndemic” by Justin Taylor

“Women and Pornography” by Thabiti Anyabwile

Here is an article on how pornography affects the brain:

Slave Master: How Pornography Drugs & Changes Your Brain by Donald L. Hilton, Jr. The article seeks to address two fallacies:

Fallacy No. 1: Pornography is not a drug.

Fallacy No. 2: Pornography is therefore not a real addiction.

“While we must continue to fight the good fight legally and societally, we are way beyond avoidance as our only defense. Pornography wants you, it wants your husband or wife, it wants your son and daughter, your grandchildren, and your in-laws. It doesn’t share well, and it doesn’t leave easily. It is a cruel master, and seeks more slaves.”

Let’s fight the good fight of faith and help others to as well, pointing them to the pure joy found in Jesus.

About dougsmith1977

Disciple of the Lord Jesus, husband, dad, student, teacher, preacher, media producer, blogger, writer. Author of Keeping the Faith in a Christian College. I tweet @dougsmith1977 .
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1 Response to How Can I Help Those Who Struggle with Sexual Addictions?

  1. John Jordan says:

    Here’s a great website that offers interactive courses for dealing with sexual sin and other addictive sorts of sins:

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